I never really thought that men were an equation to be solved. Sometimes, the equation is easy but there are always difficult ones. And alas, some are never able to be solved and others never are meant to be solved. So may I ask, since I don't like math, why do I pick the most complicated equations?!
In our classes, we cheat or we're told to 1-get tutoring 2-ask for help from classmates 3-try, try again. Then if none of those work, we seem give up completely.
Cheating- When it comes to men in general, there is no way to cheat yourself through the equation and ending up successful. In fact, I don't even think it is possible at all.
Get Tutoring- DON'T WE ALL? When we are confused about guys, what do we do? We go talk to another girl or even another guy about it. Take the movie Hitch for example. He helped all of those people that couldn't figure out equations. He was able to tutor them. In my life, I feel as if I am a tutor, but when it comes to my equations, I can't solve anything out.
Asking for Help- In the beginning of the movie He's Just Not That Into You, it shows a lot of women wondering about a guy they like and all their girlfriends are sitting around her making up excuses as to why the guy isn't calling her back. When it comes to this option, don't trust anybody. Except for maybe your closest friend who is in an amazing relationship and is engaged to be married. Otherwise, they will make up crap to make you feel better at the moment. When, in reality, it will only make you feel worse in the end. You sit here thinking that the guy isn't calling because he's at his Grandma's, helping her out because she can't walk, in the mountains and he doesn't have any cell reception. All while he's on a date with some chick who thinks she's getting a nice guy when you were in that position a few days ago. That will only end up in a disaster.
Try, Try Again- All I want to say for this is: why would anybody want to keep trying if every time they do try, it falls apart and it's expected to fall apart with every future relationship.
I've always tried to give men the benefit of the doubt. I try not to make excuses.... actually, I make a lot. But they are REALISTIC. Recently, I've realized that I shouldn't give another guy the benefit of the doubt. If he really likes you, then he will surprise you and you'll be happy. Don't get your hopes up waiting for them to just crash to the ground. Yes, aim high. Every girl wants her prince charming. But if you've put up with all the jerks and then prince charming doesn't chase after you on midnight, don't tell yourself he's going to come. If you do, you might be setting yourself up for disappointment. But, if you just tell yourself that you had a nice time but don't think anything will happen, then he shows up with a glass slipper, you'll know he's a good guy. That doesn't mean overlook all the things that would normally make you worry.
When going into a serious relationship, especially marriage, you need to keep your eyes wide open. Look out for everything possible. If the only thing you don't like is that he eats cereal with chocolate milk, you should be fine. But if you notice that he is a little rude if you speak out of line, or when you say something that opposes his judgement, those are warning signs. My mom didn't look for those signs. Now she's married to a man that doesn't truly love her.
Now onto what I wanted to speak about. This is for the men. If you know a girl likes you and there's been a little something going on, don't start ignoring her if you don't like her. Grow some balls and just tell her. It's because of guys like that, that make girls act like the crazy psycho that everyone says girls are. They're just scared and don't want to lose something that they hoped would last for a while. If you find a girl that you like more and she becomes your squeeze instead, grow a pair and tell the other girl that you found somebody else. Otherwise, you're waisting everyone's time. The girl will be whining about what's going on to all her friends, she'll be sad, she'll bother you about it and nobody wants to deal with all that dramatic crap. Just GROW SOME BALLS AND TELL HER! Also, if you have a friend (that you tell everything to) that is also friends with her sister or friend, don't think she's not going to find out. Girls tell each other everything. Especially if they find out something about the guy that her friends been worried about. and don't have your friend tell hers knowing that that's the way she's going to find out. That just shows that you aren't man enough to suck it up and tell her yourself.
Now girls, if you don't know why a guy isn't calling or texting you back, there is a reason. It's because he doesn't like you! If he liked you, he'd make it happen. If he liked you and wanted to be more than friends, he'd make that happen. If all he wants is a make-out buddy, that's what he'll make happen.. Before you kiss him, figure out what his intentions are. If you're in that space where it's kinda more than friends but not official, don't stay in that relationship limbo. Bring it up and figure it out. Even though it's limbo, it'll kill you just sitting there the whole time. All or nothing baby. All or nothing.
I'm sorry to break the new to you ladies.. Let's see if we can follow my advice.
Hopefully I can.
